How to Prepare for Your First Mediation Session

Walking into your first divorce mediation session can feel overwhelming—but a little preparation can make a big difference. The goal of mediation is to reach mutual agreements, and the more you come in ready to participate constructively, the more productive the process will be.

Gather Relevant Documents:
Start by organizing your financial paperwork—bank statements, tax returns, mortgage details, retirement account information, debt balances, and anything else related to your assets and liabilities. If you have children, bring any relevant school or health records that may impact custody decisions.

Clarify Your Priorities:
Make a list of your top goals for the mediation. What are your non-negotiables? Where are you open to compromise? Whether it’s staying in the family home, maintaining shared custody, or preserving specific financial accounts, knowing your priorities will help you stay focused during discussions.

Manage Your Emotions:
Divorce is emotional, but mediation is a businesslike process. Try to separate your feelings from the tasks at hand. If it helps, write down a few calming reminders to bring with you or rehearse how you’ll respond to triggering moments.

Set Realistic Expectations:
You probably won’t get everything you want—and neither will your spouse. Successful mediation is about finding workable solutions, not “winning.”

Stay Open to the Process:
Even if you’re unsure how things will go, come with an open mind. A good mediator can help guide the discussion, reduce conflict, and keep things on track.

The more prepared and centered you are, the smoother and more successful your mediation process will be.

DISCLAIMER
This article contains general information and general opinions from Higher Road and is not intended to be a source of legal advice for any purpose...

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