Choosing the Right Divorce Mediator

Choosing a divorce mediator is an important step—this person will help guide some of the most consequential decisions of your life. But how do you choose the right one? Here are a few key qualities to look for when selecting your mediator.

Experience Matters:
Look for a mediator with training in family law and a solid track record of successful cases. If you have children, find someone who understands parenting plans and custody dynamics. Experience in high-conflict cases can also be a plus.

Neutrality Is Key:
A good mediator remains neutral. They’re not there to take sides or push an agenda—they’re there to help both parties feel heard and move toward mutually agreeable outcomes.

Communication Style:
Some mediators take a calm, facilitative approach; others are more direct and evaluative. Ask about their style during the consultation and consider what dynamic would work best for you and your spouse.

Comfort and Trust:
You need to feel comfortable speaking openly with your mediator. If you don’t feel heard or respected in the consultation, it’s okay to keep looking. This process is too important to settle for the wrong fit.

Check Credentials and Reviews:
Ask for references or check online reviews. Many mediators also offer a free or low-cost initial consultation so you can get a feel for their approach.

A great mediator doesn’t just guide the process—they make it feel less overwhelming, less adversarial, and more human.

DISCLAIMER
This article contains general information and general opinions from Higher Road and is not intended to be a source of legal advice for any purpose...

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